Is this real? Yes it is real. It is a part of life that is evident in every activity.
If we all can agree that being around other people who are better or smarter than you can make you increase your performance because of their expectations of you, how far can we take that? Can you learn a new language in record time by immersing yourself in a foreign culture where everyone expects you to speak the native language...yes. Take it further...can you become an olympic athlete, a Navy Seal, a world class violinist, a better businessman, a better father, by training or being around people who expect more from you than you even expect from yourself? There are many examples of all of these things happening. So what is the question, really? Is it what can we do or what can't we do?
Do you think it is possible that a blind person could see because of expectations of those around them? Or can the expectations of those around that blind person make them think or become convinced of all of the things that they can't do?
I recently listened to a fascinating podcast about this exact subject. I encourage you to give it a listen and when you do...think about a couple of things.
On the simplest level, this podcast might make you wonder whether you need to reevaluate who you spend your time with. Are these people expecting big things from you or are they helping you to be mediocre? It has been said that you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Are you being pushed to excellence or coddled toward mediocrity?
On a deeper level, maybe it makes you think about how you are raising your kids. Are you smoothing the road for them and therefore lowering their expectations of themselves?
On an even deeper level you may contemplate whether or not there are any limits on the human being. Are there actually limits or do we create limits by our own and/or society's expectations?
On a personal level, after you listen to this podcast, maybe you contemplate your own expectations for yourself or your children.
Tony Robbins has always said that we are limited only by our own beliefs. He also said that the key to success is to expect more from yourself than anyone else could possibly expect from you.
Dan Gable said:
“I’m a big believer in starting with high standards and raising them.
We make progress only when we push ourselves to the highest level. If we don’t progress, we backslide into bad habits, laziness and poor attitude."
I have tried to live by these principles and can credit much of the success that I have created to them.
The story of "Batman" as told by NPR's This American Life is amazing to everyone but the subject of the documentary, a blind man who has learned to operate as well as a person with sight. He taught himself echolocation at a very young age and is completely comfortable riding a bicycle through traffic. He doesn't see his ability as anything special. He says that a blind person riding a bike through traffic is something that any blind person can do, but few do. His mother began his life with high standards by raising him as if he had sight and he raises them daily. The result is him defying and shattering our societal expectations of blind people. His new objective is to show the world that we have to change the expectations that the world has of blind people.